What actions or changes are you prepared to take to achieve your outcomes?
In NLP we often say if you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always gotten…
Basically lots of people want to change their lives and get great results, but in reality how much are they prepared to do to get them?
I’ve worked with thousands of people over the last 20 years and there’s one thing that seems to hold people back more than anything else…
At the end of the day they are going to have to behave and think differently!
But the problem really comes when someone says ‘but that wouldn’t be me!’…
You see who they currently are and how they behave is what is causing the problem. If you really want to change how you are, then you’d better be prepared to stretch new boundaries in your behaviour and thinking.
Again on our NLP training we talk about how the system with the most flexibility of behaviour controls the system…
The more flexible you are, the more ability you have to influence or control any situation you are in.
Take children, for example.
They have incredible flexibility in getting what they want.
If one strategy doesn’t work, they’ll try something else until they get the results they want.
There’s the old story told in Neuro Linguistic Prorgramming courses about how a woman who had learned NLP was in the supermarket with her young child who suddenly through himself on the floor and had a huge tantrum.
Now, most people would try to stop their child in ways that might unconsciously reward the child’s behaviour, like offering sweets or something if they stop – probably out of embarrassment.
But not this lady!
Being an NLP expert she knew that the best way to change the behaviour and have the change last would be to interrupt the pattern so that it wouldn’t run again.
So she decided to throw herself down on the floor next to her child and have a bigger tantrum than her child.
So what do you think happened?!?
Well her child was so chocked that he looks at his mother in total surprise and sure enough stopped his tantrum immediately!
Now that’s flexibility!
How many people would be prepared to do this sort of extreme behaviour?
But if you knew that achieving your biggest outcomes involved throwing yourself on the floor and having a massive tantrum would you be prepared to do it?
Of course, that’s unlikely to get you your outcome, but acting and behaving in new ways is critical and it comes down to the same principle – you need to increase your flexibility in how you behave, think and communicate.
NLP is one of the fastest ways to increase your flexibility – most important is to find a good training. I often get communications from people saying they’ve just found an NLP course down the road from them that they’ll take because it’s local – one of the most dangerous reasons to take a course!
As I said, to get your biggest results, you’re going to need to go outside your comfort zone – and that means be prepared to travel, rearrange your schedule and more to get the right training.
Our next world class NLP Practitioner training is between March 20 – 26 in Islington, London and then we’ll hold an NLP Practitioner training in Glasgow, Scotland in June. Join us to find out how much you can achieve…