NLP is all about communicating. In communicating with other people, the way you say it is the difference that makes the difference.
What is the real difference between average communication and excellent communication?
It’s commonly thought by most people that excellent communication is all about the words that you use.
Yet, the words are only a small part of communication.
So that’s one part of communication – what’s the other?
It’s all about the way you say it.
I’m sure you’ve experienced a salesperson who clearly didn’t believe in the thing they were selling, but was determined to try to convince you that something very average was actually worth buying?
Was it the language that they used that let you know they didn’t believe it?
That’s not it, is it?
It’s all in the way they say it.
Salespeople may know the most excellent lines and words to sell their products, however the words don’t matter if you don’t put it across it in the right way.
It’s all about the other elements of communication – voice tonality, the physiology and all the other non-verbals.
If you don’t get those correct, it’s finished from the start!
The deep principles to successful communication are how you say it AND what you say!
Take leaders – what makes an excellent leader? You might say it’s about having intelligent and great things to say. However in reality, a leader could be the most intelligent and well meaning person in the world, but if they talk in a monotone and look at the floor the whole time, no one will want to listen to them!
They have to put the message across in an compelling and believable way also, or people will turn off!
Similarly, the message also should be well written. A really average message said with conviction still won’t do the job either – although unfortunately even an average message said well will tend to win over a great message said badly.
So how can you increase your cability to be great at communicating your message?
These are a few important steps:
1 Know your outcome – if you want people to really relate to your communication, you need to have a very clear vision. Having this very clear vision will develop your charisma as a leader
2 Believe totally in your outcome / message / or service. If you don’t believe in your outcome, people will pick up on it, and they’ll switch off to your communication – it’s really that simple!
3 Write out the basics of your message and tell it to people you trust. Ask them for feedback. The journey from being mediocre to being great is about learning from feedback and getting feedback from people you trust to be honest is a great way to develop this skill.
Attending an NLP course is also going to help with your outstanding communication skills. To build your confidence, hypnosis is also a way many of my clients have succeeded powerfully.