Dealing With Stress
I run a lot of business programs in stress management and thought I’d write this NLP blog about using NLP and stress.
Stress affects everyone. And it’s not just stress at work, but it’s also in other areas of life.
In fact, the truth is we need some stress to function effectively. Stress gets us going in the morning and keeps us working optimally.
However when we have too much stress or have high levels for prolongued periods of time, it can have dire consequences on our health, emotional well-being and happiness.
Companies lose billions of pounds/ dollars every year as a result of stress.
Many absentee days from work are a direct or indirect result of stress.
Studies have even shown how extreme stress will cause our bodies to age prematurely at a cellular level!
So what can we do about stress?
NLP teaches some really valuable techniques and strategies to help us deal with stress more effectively.
In fact many things people lean on an NLP training even help reduce stress without direct awareness of how it happens!
Take for example some students who cam on our course several years ago. They worked for a large manufacturing plant that experienced several serious accidents every year.
From learning about how to use language effectively they went back to their organization and rewrote some of the training guides and signs and within a year had virtually cut out all serious injuries. This was purely through awareness of how to use language effectively!
Language and communicating is often a major source of stress for people. Just the other day I opened up a new light I had purchased and looked at the instructions for fitting it together. It might has well have been written in Russian – I couldn’t understand a word of it!
What did I experience? Stress!!!
When we experience unclear communication or instructions it can be exceedingly stressful, however in reality people experience this all too often at work.
One of the first keys to communicating effectively is to say exactly what you want – not what you don’t want. Most people know what they don’t want, but aren’t clear about exactly what they do want!
People will come for a coaching session and say ‘I don’t want to feel stressed’ but not know what they DO want. And as a result they end up focusing on the thing they don’t want.
Here are a few keys to follow:
Be clear about the outcome of your message. Formulate what to say specifically without any risk of ambiguity.
Make sure it is framed in terms of what you want and not what you don’t want. If you’ve said something like, ‘I don’t want…..’ then ask yourself what you do want instead.
Communicate it in a way that the other person will understand – remember it’s about them understanding, not about you saying what you think is important!
Most lack of understanding comes from the way we communicate the message, not from the other person, so if we don’t get the outcome we want after communicating with someone, work on changing your communication.
NLP Training is probably the best way to learn outstanding communication skills as well as the most powerful ways to manage your emotional state. We have regular NLP Practitioner courses in London and Scotland.