I recently met someone whilst I was in the USA who said he had a friend who was a psychologist who said NLP was all just hype with no substance and that the techniques don’t work.
This seems to be a belief that stops a lot of people from even beginning to learn NLP – after all, if you think it’s all hype, why even bother?
Well, from having been working in NLP for over 20 years, I can quite definitely say that it does work, in fact out of all of the different tools in psychology and personal development that I’ve studied, it has the most effective and powerful tools and techniques I’ve found.
But how come some people say it doesn’t work?
Well, there are several reasons, but first it’s got to be because NLP has gone through such a boom that it’s being taught everywhere. In fact, just search NLP and you’ll find more NLP courses advertised than pretty much anything else!
Now that’s a good thing and a bad thing!
It’s good that people are hearing about it, but bad because the standards are really mixed.
I mean, I get people attending my trainings who have had really bad experiences on other NLP training courses and fortunately took the chance to try again and were really happy when they attended my NLP course.
So what makes the difference in getting results in NLP?
Well there’s lots of things, but here are a few keys if you want the most out of NLP
1 NLP is about principles, not jut techniques – many people attend rapid NLP trainings where they learn a lot of techniques, but don’t really get taught the principles behind them – and it’s the principles that really make NLP work so you can get excellent results. I’ve met many people who didn’t get results when they learned NLP simply because the principles weren’t taught. When you understand the principles, you’ll get great results from everything you learn in NLP.
For that reason, don’t try to learn it too fast – you need to take time to master NLP
2 Responsibility for change is YOURS! If you want to get the most out of a training, you have to be prepared to put 100% in. Because it’s not the other person that makes you change, it’s through your active involvement in the process.
3 Practice to get to mastery! You have to really practice what you learn. Experience makes the difference! I recently read someone’s website who proudly said they had become an NLP trainer within 6 months of learning NLP – like that was a good thing! To train other people, you first need to have real experience and depth of understanding yourself – if you only half understand what you teach, your students will get even less! It’s a little like the game ‘Chinese whispers’ where the message gets more and more distorted, until it’s eventually meaningless.
I attended about 5 Practitioner and 5 Master Practitioner trainings and then assisted on dozens of courses as well as working with hundreds of clients before I started training people in NLP.
As a result, my students get great results and that’s what’s really important to me – getting NLP to work.