How to get better results in everything you do….
What is one of the key differences between an expert and someone who gets really average results?’t
Since I started learning NLP I became fascinated with how to get excellent results in all areas of life.
I used to think that I was just not great at some things and never would be. But after I learned NLP I realized that I had a lot of limiting beliefs that prevented me from pursuing things I wanted to to a level of excellence – I just thought that I wasn’t born with the ‘genes’ to get the level of results I wanted.
Then after getting involved in NLP I saw people getting truly incredible results. Particularly when NLP was relatively new in the UK and the trainings were all 15 – 20 days or more at each level and people got to learn NLP in real depth.
And that’s the key – the depth of learning.
Because one of the most important differences between true excellence and people who get average results is that excellent performers make distinctions that other people don’t.
The don’t simply perform, they perform at a level that only someone who can make fine distinctions can.
For example, a chef will notice differences in taste that someone else wouldn’t and it is their ability to make those distinctions that makes the difference.
In a similar way, I am a classically trained violinist and if I go to a concert where the music is played out of tune, I really struggle to be in the room at all!
And what gives those distinctions is really training. NLP can give you the tools to make the learning process quicker and identify the steps that are really needed, but at the end of the day, you still need to put in the hours.
That is why you’re not going to find someone becoming a world class concert violinist in a few days after being on an NLP course! But that is frequently the impression that some courses are giving.
In the same way, you’re not going to become an expert in NLP after just attending a short training – you really need to put in the hours.
Taking the time to learn NLP is really important if you want to master it. Short courses can give you a buzz, but at the end of the day your skill comes from your competence, not just your confidence.
Many courses are turning out people with massive confidence, but the competence is lacking.
If you want to be an expert in anything, it’s really largely about your ability to make finer distinctions than the non-expert.
Part of that can be finding the right teacher.
I remember when I was learning the violin at music college, when I found the right teacher my playing really blossomed. Finding someone who can teach as well as do can be a challenge and it makes all the difference.
That’s why I’m committed to running NLP trainings with small groups of people to ensure maximum learnings.