What makes charisma?
I was having a discussion the other day with a friend and wondered what is it that makes charisma?
One argument someone was having was a thought on why no British politicians seem to have the same level of charisma as American politicians, such as Obama?
The other person thought this a really odd thing to say as they didn’t think Obama was at all charismatic but found the British political leaders highly charismatic.
Clearly at some level charisma is a highly personal thing.
There is nobody in the entire world that everyone would view as charismatic, however in reality anyone can develop charisma which can positively shape their interactions and success.
If you have an outcome that requires communicating with other people, developing your charisma could be a really important tool.
So what is charisma?
Charisma is largely about confidence and conviction.
When you think about some of the most successful entrepreneurs, you probably would consider most of them have what most people call charisma.
The question is – did the charisma make them successful, or does their success give them charisma?
Successful people (who get their through their own work!) have a very clear focus. They know their outcome and don’t get distracted. They are committed and flexible – if you only have one way of doing something, it may not work – you need to have more than one possible path to your desired outcome.
Charismatic people also have a real self-confidence and belief in what they are doing as well as being good at what they do (after confidence without competence is essentially delusion, but in a lot of NLP I’ve seen taught, that seems to be what is installed!).
So how can you grow your own confidence?
Here are a few simple steps to boost your confidence
1 Have a very clear outcome – know what you want and create a powerful vision of it. Really spend time thinking about what it will look like, sound like and feel like to have it
2 Think about WHY it is so important for you to have it – charismatic people have a strong sense of purpose. Knowing the reasons for what you do will help drive you into action
3 Create a plan – have a series of easy steps to take action on and constantly review your outcome and reasons for doing it
4 Think about your resources – what are your strengths, skills and abilities that will help you get your outcome. If you aren’t sure, ask a friend what they think your strengths are. It’s often amazing that we don’t recognize to ourselves our true qualities and strengths
5 Enroll others in your vision – get excited about your outcome and share it with other people – get them excited about the outcome also. When you have rapport with other people and get excited about your outcome, other people will get excited also – you’ll discover a real charisma starting to flow from you.