So to review the last blog, this client was in real inner conflict. When she was on her own she really wanted to be with her boyfriend, but when she was too close to someone she wanted to be on her own!
Basically when she was living on her own the part of her that wanted freedom was satisfied and didn’t surface, but moving in with her boyfriend brought it to the surface.
So what was she to do? How could she deal with this part of her that continually sabotaged her relationship?
We did the NLP Parts integration technique. This is one of the most effective methods of negotiating to achieve a win win situation. Basically the process involves separating the behaviour from the intention behind it by chunking up both sides until they can find agreement. For example, many years ago in the nuclear arms race, many people wanted total disarmament, wheareas the other side wanted more weapons. This caused a huge amount of tension. However, the intention behind each side (chunked up to a high enough level) was to achieve world peace, however they had very different methods of wanting to do it.
There is no point just arguing about the specific methods or behaviours used, but by finding the highest intention we can begin with a basis for agreement and then find other methods to fulfil this highest positive intention that both sides agree on.
More on how this was used with the clients conflict in the next NLP blog…
In the meantime, if you are aware of any internal conflict that his holding you back, why not reserve your place at our next NLP Practitioner training between March 14 – 20 in London, UK. Alternatively join our hypnotherapy training on March 5th.