So why do people put off taking action to turn their dreams into reality?
There are many reasons, but one of the most obvious is some sort of internal conflict.
If you are new to NLP, you might be thinking ‘internal conflict? What on earth is that!’ – well basically think about times in the past you have had conflict with someone else – say for example in a business situation, where you want one thing, but someone you are working with wants something else. You can spend hours, days or even years getting nothing done – and I know people that really have spent years!
An example of internal conflict is when part of us wants one thing, but another part wants something else. For example, someone I once worked with really wanted a close intimate relationship with her boyfriend, but another part of her wanted freedom to do what she wanted, whenever she wanted.
Usually it wasn’t a problem, but several times in the past her boyfriend would ask her to move in with him, which she did, and within a few days she would start to get into arguments with him, which she rarely ever did when they were living apart, and she would end up storming out of the house and back into her own place. This must have happened 8 or 9 times before. Clearly there was a pattern! In NLP we are always looking for patterns.
How did she resolve this conflict? Find out in the next NLP blog….