I was watching the protests in Thailand on the news at the end of last week. It was really upsetting to see the violence that is happening at the moment. Thailand is one of my favourite places in the world to visit. The people there are lovely, the food is great and the scenery is breathtaking.
When you get to the airport, you see posters saying ‘the land of smiles’ and in our experience that really is the truth. People are so friendly and lovely there.
The funny thing is that last year we were in Bangkok at about the same time of year when there were also protests and one morning we turned on the television and saw the military reaction to the ptotests, a bus on fire and other things that worried us.
However the really weird thing was what we saw on the television was happening just down the road from the hotel and we wondered whether it was safe to go out.
When we did go out, we didn’t see any problems anywhere. The media had clearly done a great job of focusing on things that were happening in a specific area and made it seem like it was happening everywhere.
This is one of the dangers of generalization. A lot of people do this when they watch the news. I remember years ago I was going on holiday to Florida and my mother phoned me and said ‘be careful in America, because tourists get shot in America!’. She sent me a cutting of someone of had got shot in America, and from one incident generalized to America being a dangerous place, when in fact London has its fair share of shootings, stabbings and other crimes!
It is really important to view things we read, watch and hear about from an objective viewpoint. When I first learned NLP I learned incredible ways to get a new perspective on things. Some steps that will help are:
- Step back from the situation and imagine viewing it from a distance
- Ask yourself, is this really true? Where specifically is this happening? What specifically is happening?
- Ask yourself ‘Does this really affect me?’
Clearly there are some major problems in Thailand at the moment that are more intense than in previous years.
So how come in such a beautiful environment with beautiful people there could be such intense dispute?
It all comes down to values. Values are those things that are most important to us – those things that we are willing to invest our time, energy and resources into either having or avoiding.
To stay true to our core values and beliefs, people are willing to do pretty much anything – even go to war.
Everything you do has its motivation in your values – you only do things that are important to you – and some things are more important than others, which have greater impact on our lives.
I’ve just been running the 2nd module of our Master Practitioner training where we explore values in depth.
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