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Comment on NLP Blog on coaching by Importance of Dog Coaching | The Pet Trimmer

Importance of Dog Coaching | The Pet Trimmer — Wed, 12 May 2010 11:13:47 +0000

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Comment on Don’t blame the NLP Blog :-) by admin

admin — Mon, 03 May 2010 19:30:50 +0000

I like your thinking! I once heard of someone having an accident because they put the wheel end of a ladder at the bottom instead of the top! It does make me think they are possible contenders for the Darwin Awards (if you haven’t read the books, they are well worth it).

Comment on Don’t blame the NLP Blog :-) by Andy

Andy — Mon, 03 May 2010 18:56:00 +0000

That ladder statement puzzles me too Tom!…. Maybe he was given a “climbing down” ladder and he needed a “climbing up” ladder!?!?

Comment on How to enjoy anything… by Some interesting posts on NLP that I found out there on the net…. | NLP SKILLS

Mon, 12 Apr 2010 03:39:50 +0000

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Comment on Managing Pain With NLP by China Goeman

China Goeman — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 10:44:12 +0000

Hi – I want to say thank you for an interesting post about a subject I have had an interest in for a while now. I have been lurking and reading the comments avidly so just wanted to express my thanks for providing me with some very good reading material. I look forward to more, and taking a more proactive part in the discussions here, whilst picking up some knowledge too!!

Comment on Dealing with blocks… by admin

admin — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 15:03:07 +0000

Very nice idea for dealing with decisions – I like it. With internal conflict, the problem is deeper than a decision, because whichever choice you make you will not be happy, because we are dealing with separate parts of us that want separate things, so parts integration is the best choice for internal conflict.

Comment on Dealing with blocks… by Val Smith

Val Smith — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 22:54:39 +0000

In the event of an internal conflict such as you describe i always like to do the coin toss trick. You know, you say if it’s head you take plan A and if it’s tails you agree to plan b. Then you spin the coin, wait a second to heighten the drama and then…just put the coin back in your pocket without looking at the result. The subject is usually rooting for it to be either one of heads or tails, and that is the option they REALLY want.

Comment on Getting ready for the New Year… by Terry Banner

Terry Banner — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 19:54:59 +0000

Great post, I believe being congruent with your core values will drive you thru life situations with so much ease. Having own values is like a compass for me, it tells me where to go next, and how to get there. I liked it so much, I mentioned your post on my blog here http://nlptrainer-terry.com/nlp-plus-christmas/

Comment on Getting ready for the New Year… by NLP Plus Christmas?

NLP Plus Christmas? — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 19:51:53 +0000

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Comment on Cross over mirroring by admin

admin — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 20:05:57 +0000

Thanks for the comment with some really useful suggestions. These fine levels of cross over mirroring are exceedingly useful and powerful.
As for matching and mirroring I have never been called on it and produce great levels of rapport. My personal experience and experience in training students is that the major factor to overcome is getting away from the idea of ‘mimicking’ – when matching and mirroring is awkward it may be obvious – when done gracefully you should never get ‘called’ on it – I have never been, nor any of my students who have applied these core skills, because people who get on with each other follow these patterns of rapport naturally, so we are just do what we would tend to do naturally with those people we get on with.
When the person building rapport becomes overly conscious of what they are doing, this is when people may notice it. Also the level of matching is important – matching ‘gross’ physical movements may be obvious, however small muscle movements and positions will be taken at an unconscious level.